Shrines

People have amassed shrines for years.  In Prague there is a wall dedicated to John Lennon; flowers and photos adorn the gates of Princess Diana’s home in London; an eternal flame shines for the unknown soldier; Shinto shrines celebrate wind, rain, mountains, trees and rivers; we bury our dead and mark the grave with a headstone….we want a marker of those things valuable and important to us.  That is how we feel about our dead children; we don’t want our children to be forgotten, we must remember them, others must remember them. 

My son's boots are my shrine to him. 

His boots are the only thing left from his accident.  They sit there, worn but whole, and I see him, I think of him, I remember him, I love him.  His boots do that for me….they create an instant recall of him, his person, his character, his life.

Don’t tell me to put the boots away, don’t tell me that is it unhealthy to hold on to things that recall his memory…it is the purpose of the shrine, and yes, I want to remember my son. I want you to remember my son.  He had value. He had purpose.  He was good and right…recall that gift every time you see his boots.  Revel in his glory, laugh with him, smile with him, embrace his life and take him with you, his memory is valuable, he is valuable.  Say his name.